Mr. Erickson have we met? :p your description was spot on and clearly described too as if you've known me for years! (or unless you did a thorough psychological study!)
I realized it wasn't only with downpicking, but picking/strumming overall and of course my frustrating nature isn't really helping in that aspect. I've discussed this with a guitar teacher I've know for some time now and we've agreed to start evaluating all the basics first, starting by my picking technique and progressing from there.

thanks for putting that mirror in front of me and pointing out where the real problems lies!

maybe, just maybe, I'll someday understand how someone as Tosin Abasi can play as if it's as effortless as brushing your teeth! if you're unfamiliar with Tosin Abasi: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SZf655y29MQ&feature=fvwrel enjoy ;)